Hi friend,
My wish is that you are surrounded by loved ones, regardless of the circumstances.
I was listening to an audiobook ( The 48 Laws of Power ) by one of my favorite authors, Robert Greene (YouTube Channel) to whom is Ryan Holliday’s mentor and on the cutting edge of Thought Leadership in several genres.
“Power is something that is part of human nature. There is no such thing as a group of people that do not want power.”
An interesting statement coming from Mr. Greene considering the circumstances in the USA, as of this writing. Feb 4, 2025
Some key theories and insights NOT from his book:
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The Approach/Inhibition Theory of Power (Keltner, Gruenfeld, & Anderson):
This theory suggests that power activates the brain’s behavioral approach system, increasing goal-directed behavior and reducing social inhibitions, while diminishing sensitivity to social consequences.
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The Power Paradox (Dacher Keltner, YouTube):
Keltner argues that while power is often gained through empathy and social intelligence, it paradoxically diminishes those very traits over time, potentially eroding the foundations of one’s influence.
I was hoping to find that Mr. Greene would be touring this year. I have the deepest respect for him being so resilient, considering what he’s been through.
His message is not easy to hear for most….
(Robert Greene, Home Page: X, Amazon, You Tube) So far, there has been no word of him touring.
Patience, Dennis. Japan is on the Horizon and knowing your luck he will be eating sushi next to you on your first night out in Japan.
Things I’ve Learned
- The Gottman Institute’s “Sound Relationship House” Theory (John & Julie Gottman, 1990s–Present)
The Gottmans conducted over 40 years of longitudinal research with thousands of couples to identify what makes relationships thrive. Their model shows that trust and commitment are the foundational pillars of lasting partnerships.
- Key Finding: Couples with high trust scores were 80% more likely to stay together long-term.
- Trust was built through small, consistent acts of turning toward each other during daily interactions, not grand gestures.
SO Good-
Small, consistent acts of turning toward each other.
2 The Hidden Superpower: Why Being Willing to Be Disliked Sets You Free
In a world obsessed with likes, validation, and social approval, the willingness to be disliked isn’t just rare—it’s a superpower.
When you embrace the idea that not everyone will approve of you, something transformative happens. You unlock the courage to take bold actions that most people shy away from.
This courage doesn’t just help you achieve success; it gives your life a deeper sense of purpose and authenticity.
But let’s take it a step further.
Until you’re truly comfortable with disapproval and judgment, you’re not genuinely free. You’re trapped in an invisible cage built from other people’s expectations. Working & living under the very low glass ceiling.
To break free:
- Do what’s right, even if it’s unpopular.
- Embrace criticism, because feedback fuels growth.
- Face hate, mockery, and trolling head-on—because if you can stand tall amidst negativity, you become unstoppable.
- Celebrate all your wins, no matter what size.
- Read, understand and implement: The Obstacle Is The Way by Ryan Holliday. This book is game changer.
The real flex isn’t being liked.
It’s being authentically you, no matter who disagrees.
Always learning, growing and applying.
The Pranayama Podcast
I’m excited to announce a very RUFF, off the wall podcast with this week’s guest:
Peter Wilkinson – An Essex boy obsessed with music.
*The Pranayama Podcast on YouTube here.
The Saints dummer. Peter’s Wikipedia here.
More on the Saints Here
They were kind of god-like to me and my colleagues. They were just always so much better than everybody else. It was extraordinary to go and see a band that was so anarchic and violent.
— Nick Cave13
This interview takes place at the Crown Pub in the heart of historical Cirencester, Cotswold District of Gloucestershire, England. November 2024
- Because several other people from neighboring tables jumped in on the podcast, it will be audio with captions.
This Week’s Read is a Movie 2:
Robert Greene highly suggests reading this book and I do as well. Here is Mr.Greene talking about the book.
Five Frames of Mind by Howard Gardner
- Five Frames of Mind discusses five different types of intelligence.
Watch this movie after you read the book.
A Man Called Otto with Tom Hanks.
Figure out which characters (actors) are attuned to the different types of intelligence in the movie. Then apply the same strategy to your family and friends.
Enjoy.
Music Groupie Insight
Well, I’m giving up all my secrets now… I would really like to see these two girls play live. As a matter of fact, I’d like to hang out with them in the green room if that’s OK, thank you very muchly.
Well, I’m giving up all my secrets now… I would really like to see these two girls play live. As a matter of fact, I’d like to hang out with them in the green room if that’s OK, thank you very muchly.
Well, I’m giving up all my secrets now… I would really like to see these two girls play live. As a matter of fact, I’d like to hang out with them in the green room if that’s OK, thank you very muchly.
I think they’ve done an incredible job, in a world that is obviously dominated by the deepest of naughtiness.
- they have a rockin name, with a story to go with it..start diggin. (website): Larkin Poe
Their latest video on YouTube:
Larkin Poe | Easy Love
Fun Fact ( Instagram ) : Rebecca Lovell was wearing one of my father’s belt buckles on Instagram. Something about that.
Stay in the light of love my friends. It’s always worth it. Dennis
